Being a natural observer and philosopher, I have been pondering the idea of wholeness vs. individuality. The balancing act. We as a species, seek wholeness in our community. To feel a sense of love and belonging. To form social bonds. We as individuals though, seek individuality and uniqueness, through our egos. To be one of a kind. It is a goal, to seek harmony within these two views.
This rarely seems to happen though. Often times, people get this idea of wholeness mixed up with the idea of fitting in. But conforming to the limitations of “fitting in” proves failure in both wholeness and individuality, for we are not only not our true, authentic selves because of this, we do not feel that sense of wholeness and acceptance because of it. Deep down, we know that this false image we portray can never fill us with the gratitude and happiness we seek.
Our society, for the majority, is one of judgement based on differences. We see this in race, sexual orientation, gender, religion, etc. We see and hear about this frequently, mainly in major news, but the judgments that happen daily, in our everyday lives, are the ones about the free-thinkers. The questioning minds and rebelling souls. The quirky individuals that often get teased in high school for being weird. The ones that stand out, but in our society, that is seen as a bad thing because they are different. And we judge different.
Our family, our peers, the media, they all try to fit us into this mold. But why do we want to be a copy? Why try to be like everyone else? Why try to dim that burning fire inside of us when that is the thing that shines and makes us unique? Society needs to embrace these differences instead of shun them, because in reality, we are all unique. Many of us just don’t let our uniqueness show in fear of not obtaining that sense of wholeness and acceptance.
These changes need to happen on both ends of the spectrum, from the individual level and from the public. To shift our perspective to one of acceptance for all instead of mocking those that are different. Many great minds and leaders throughout the ages were the “oddballs”, “rebels”, etc. All because they chose to allow their fires to burn within them, letting themselves be taken by passion, by an idea, or however they let their uniqueness shine. So here’s to the free-thinkers, the rebels, the outcasts, the curious minds, and the lost souls. Their bravery of being themselves is a lesson for us to take note. Through them being their authentic selves and allowing their true identities and individualites to show, they are able to find wholeness and acceptance with others that have embraced this same idea of respecting and valuing our differences just as much as our similarities. So, here’s to the odd and the weird that makes this world a little bit brighter with their shining rays.
Stay weird. Stay beautiful.