Whether it is a friend, family member, or stranger, we have all dealt with unhealthy people in our lives. These people either tend to have negative mindsets or are mentally/psychologically unstable. They may say or act in ways that are hurtful and energy draining. So how does one deal with having an unhealthy person in their life? Sometimes it is just better or easier to cut contact with that person, especially if they are effecting your personal well-being. Other times it is not so easy, especially if you care about the person and want them to get better. But remember, you cannot change someone. They can only change themselves. For me, this is a hard lesson I am learning. I genuinely like to help people. I want everyone to be the best versions of themselves that they can be, but I have realized that despite me wanting to help people with their issues, some people just don’t want to be helped. Not only that, but they don’t want to change. Only they can make that choice. So how are some ways to deal with unhealthy people? Here are a few suggestions:
Don’t take things personally
Most often then not, when unhealthy people act out and are cruel and hurtful towards others, this is a reflection onto themselves. It is them not being at a good place internally and knowing that what they say and do is just their insecurities speaking out, you are able to bounce back and realize that you have likely done nothing wrong.
This can be hard, especially when dealing with some pretty toxic people, but remember that they need love too. These people are hurting deep down. Show them love and compassion. Send them positive energy. I live by the motto: Kill them with Kindness.
Be an Example
So what if you wish someone would change? Remember, you can’t force people to change, only they can do that for themselves. You can however be a positive example and by doing so, encourage and inspire others to live a more positive lifestyle.
Know when to walk away
If having a toxic relationship starts to critically affect your well being, have the courage to walk away. It isn’t easy, but you have to think about what is best for you. Encourage them to seek help or just take a break temporarily until they are at a better place internally.